{"id":236,"date":"2017-10-28T13:49:19","date_gmt":"2017-10-28T13:49:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sparessourcinghub.com\/sshtt\/2017\/10\/28\/overcoming-your-failure\/"},"modified":"2017-10-28T13:49:19","modified_gmt":"2017-10-28T13:49:19","slug":"overcoming-your-failure","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sparessourcinghub.com\/sshtt\/overcoming-your-failure\/","title":{"rendered":"Overcoming Your Failure"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Failure is the most important step to reaching success, but it can still feel like it\u2019s crushing your soul. To make failure your friend and not your enemy, you must overcome it. Here are some strategies for moving on after a tough break.<\/p>\n<p>Normally, though, we reserve the word failure for the bigger things. The times when we\u2019ve let others down, and, more importantly, ourselves. Trying your hardest to do something important and failing is when it really stings and shakes your confidence. Maybe your startup business idea failed, you lost the big game, or you let someone you care about down. Sometimes failure can leave a mark\u2014but it doesn\u2019t have to.<\/p>\n<h3>Feel What You Need to Feel<\/h3>\n<p>Failure can take a hefty emotional toll, and that\u2019s okay. What\u2019s important is getting the negative feelings you have out of your system so you can regroup and tackle what\u2019s next. Don\u2019t keep how you feel trapped inside of you like a shaken up soda. Bottling your emotions can lead to two things:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>An emotional outburst:<\/strong>\u00a0Eventually the pressure will build and it will be too much for you to contain. In a moment of weakness, everything you\u2019ve kept inside could explode and set you back even further. This not only affects your mental state, but it can affect your relationships too. When you have an outburst, the people you care about often end up in the crossfire.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Creeping negativity:<\/strong>\u00a0If you only loosen the cap, the negativity will slowly and persistently enter your mind. You need to openly confront the mistakes you made and give yourself the chance to feel it all. Otherwise, anxiety will start to linger in the back of your mind and the soft hiss of failure will continue. Constant anxiety is incredibly unhealthy and can lead to even more problems.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>So, how do you let it all out? There are a few ways to get the bad, and\u2014most importantly\u2014retain the knowledge you gained:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Set aside some time:<\/strong>\u00a0It\u2019s okay to feel like you\u2019ve hit rock bottom. Completely ignoring what happened isn\u2019t helpful, so set aside a specific amount of time to wallow as much as you want. Take some time to be angry, upset, and frustrated so you can get it all out. If it\u2019s something small, all you may need is an hour to pace around or cry in a pillow. For something larger, give yourself a full 24 hours to let it all out and wake up the next day with a clean slate. If you need more than a day, that\u2019s okay, but make sure it\u2019s an amount of time set by you and that you stick to it. You get that time to be as mopey as you want, but when it\u2019s over, move on.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Talk about it:<\/strong>\u00a0Talk to somebody you know about how you\u2019re feeling. It\u2019s well known that just talking about something can make you feel better. Take a load off and express yourself. Chances are whoever you talk to will try to make you feel better, but even if they don\u2019t, saying how you feel out loud puts that information out somewhere besides your brain.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Don\u2019t let it become a part of your identity:<\/strong>\u00a0Failure is something that happens, not something you are. Susan Tardanico at Forbes explains that <a href=\\\\\\\"https:\/\/www.forbes.com\/sites\/susantardanico\/2012\/09\/27\/five-ways-to-make-peace-with-failure\/\\\\\\\" target=\\\\\\\"_blank\\\\\\\" rel=\\\\\\\"noopener noreferrer\\\\\\\">just because you haven\u2019t found a successful way to do something doesn\u2019t mean you are a failure<\/a>. Be careful not to blur the lines between making mistakes and being someone who only makes mistakes. Our actions may define us, but our failures do not. The actions you take to move past failure and reach success will define you in the end.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Failure can leave an open wound and it\u2019s unwise to ignore it. Without acknowledging it, your wound will continue to hurt, take longer to heal, and possibly get infected.<\/p>\n<h3>Change Your Definition of Failure<\/h3>\n<p>Have we mentioned that failure is good? It can be hard to think that way, but\u00a0changing your definition of failure can help you cope. Failure is a learning and growing opportunity that is necessary for growth.<\/p>\n<p>Robert Spadinger at Pick the Brain has a list of truths that can help adjust your own definition of failure:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Failure is an integral part on the way to success and self realization.<\/li>\n<li>Whenever you step outside the comfort zone and whenever you try something new, failure becomes inevitable.<\/li>\n<li>Each failure brings you one step closer to reaching your goals.<\/li>\n<li>Failure is a great teacher and it allows you to learn some of the most valuable life lessons.<\/li>\n<li>Each failure makes you stronger, bigger and better.<\/li>\n<li>Making mistakes is not a big deal as long as you learn from them and avoid repeating them.<\/li>\n<li>Failure teaches you that a certain approach may not be ideal for a specific situation and that there are better approaches.<\/li>\n<li>Successful people will never laugh at you or judge you when you fail, because they have already been there and they know\u00a0about the valuable lessons you can learn from failure.<\/li>\n<li>No matter how often you fail, you are not a failure as long as you don\u2019t give up.<\/li>\n<li>Each time you fail, your fear of failure becomes smaller, which allows you to take on even bigger challenges.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Every mistake is a learning opportunity, and after you\u2019ve moved past your emotions, it\u2019s important to revisit your mistakes with a new perspective. Look at what you did that went wrong, but also look at what you did that was right, and what you can do better next time. Failure is rarely so black and white.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Failure is the most important step to reaching success, but it can still feel like it\u2019s crushing your soul. To make failure your friend and not your enemy, you must overcome it. Here are some strategies for moving on after a tough break. Normally, though, we reserve the word failure for the bigger things. 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